The Elephant in the Room

If you were glued to your TV last week watching the Democratic Convention like me, you were watching history being rewritten.

The line up of speakers – both professional political speaker and everyday people – and entertainers was impressive. Michelle Obama set the bar high with her eloquent take on what’s happening.

I am not a political junkie but each night I wanted to know what the next and the next person would say. Would they stay positive? At last, Hillary came out to accept the nomination, to tell us more about what makes her tick, what drives her passion, and her vision for the future of America.

As I reflect on the convention, I am proud of how everyone addressed the ‘elephant in the room.’ While many were passionate, no one was nasty or snarky or stooped down to the level represented by the GOP’s convention. Instead, they built a solid case that I hope will awaken any doubters to the BEST choice (imho) for our country’s highest good. Instead, they took the high road and I know I wasn’t the only one who shed a few tears.

Yes, we have a way to go before we can say that as Democrats, as Americans, we truly live up to our Declaration of Independence and Constitution, but that doesn’t make this country bad or wrong. No. We’re great because we keep breaking ceilings, seeing our problems and we do something. We do it through a democratic system. It’s a system created to self-correct unlike any other in the world.

I say this as a first generation descendent of an immigrant from China. I’ve studied the over five thousand year history of China’s rulers and have witnessed its new era of a communistic way of life. My take away from China’s past and present is that it is important to the viability of a nation to learn the lessons from the past. As Einstein said,

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I believe Hillary Clinton has learned a lot in her years in politics and through her trials and tribulations, but just in case there’s any doubt who I’m voting for, I created a bumper sticker and I’ve booked my rooms for the inauguration. I want to be there to watch the United States making history.

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The Political Zoo, Part 2

Bet you are wondering what I came up with in this exercise! But first, a message from our sponsor. Just kidding! No ads here, a “shout out,” but no ads.

Your responses were fascinating. Do you think that someday we can all come to the watering hole in peace?


As I mentioned, there’s more to the exercise. So, here goes:

First, breathe in deeply and breathe out. Did you know that focusing on your breath like that relaxes your body, mind and spirit? Remember the animal you imagined for Hilary Clinton. Now, from that place within you that knows unconditional love. If that’s another tough climb, just do the best you can. Most people love their spouse, their children, a pet, their parents. Whatever connects you with love, even if it seems silly to someone else. It’s your key to the door of love. From that place within you that knows unconditional love, imagine a bridge of loving light to the animal. Again, observe without judgement and begin to notice if the animal changes and how it changes. Freeze frame the image.

Now, remember the animal you imagined for Donald Trump. Now, from that place within you that knows unconditional love. Do the best you can. Think of a loving spouse, your children, a pet, parents. Whatever connects you with love, whatever unlocks the door of love for you. From that place within you that knows unconditional love, imagine a bridge of loving light to the animal. Again, observe without judgement and begin to notice if the animal changes and how it changes. Now, freeze frame the image and take a deep bre.ath in and out, feel relaxed and calm and peaceful.

I know, some of you are saying, “Well, that was silly.” I also know that others are saying, “I imagined such and such. Where did that come from?” I’d love to hear back what happened in this part of the exercise. (If you don’t like the world to see your response, then send a message to my email

BTW The exercise works beautifully with people that you like, too. 

Here’s the deal: the imagery was not just about Hillary or Donald. It’s also about what they reflect back to you. Remember, that Jungian thing. Like it or not, you were also seeing some aspect of you, but more importantly, you were sending unconditionally love to Hillary, Donald and you in the best way you know how.

In fact, in my humble opinion, that’s what this exercise, the current political scene, and life on this planet are all about. Opportunities to love. LOVE – PASS IT ON & PAY IT FORWARD.


Here’s the shout out to another great movie for young and old.


A medium’s look at the political zoo

It’s probably safe to say that as a medium and reincarnation researcher, I look at politics quite differently than most folks.  I know, it’s a zoo out there.


While many folks – on both sides – harp on the negative aspects of the other, I view both candidates as a representation of what Carl Jung called “the collective consciousness.” In other words, they represent something in all of us Americans. You might say, “Well, that’s scary.” Or you might say, “Not ME!” But consider this: both candidates reflect something back to you and me, some things we like and some things we don’t.

So, here’s a technique I use when I am confronted by someone who I don’t like. It’s a very simple technique that I learned in a meditation class, using your imagination. I know, for some using much less trusting your imagination is like asking you to climb Mt. Everest; however, if you can put your analytical mind on the back burner for just a few moments, you might be surprised. The exercise goes like this:

Take a deep breath in and out. Now, think of a person, in this case, let’s look at Hilary Clinton and imagine her as an animal. Just bring your awareness to the image of the animal, observing without judging what the animal is doing, if it is by itself or with others. Now, freeze frame that image for a moment.

Next, do the same thing with Donald Trump.  Again, bring your awareness to the image of the animal, observing without judging what this animal is doing, if it is by itself or with others. Freeze frame that image and don’t forget to breathe deeply in and out.

Okay, that’s is. It sounds too simple, right? But you’d be surprised what this exercise can reveal.

I’d love to hear what image you perceived before I go further with the exercise. Oh, BTW, there’s more, which I will reveal in the next post. I know, it’s a bit of a tease, but hey, I’m feeling a need to “lighten up” in this election process, and I promise that the next post will be soon. Until then, you could watch the movie, “Zootopia.” It’s not just a kids movie!

FREE Summer Read: The Not So Secret Life of Emily Elizabeth

Happy Birthday, Dad, who was my first guide on the “other side.” He would have been 106! I am still working on the book,

I am still working on the book, Conversations with a Hungry Ghost: Memoir of a Reluctant Medium, which was inspired by the experiences I shared with him since 1990 when I sensed him at his funeral. I promise to finish it after my trip to Dad’s birthplace in China. Definitely, by the end of the year.

In the meantime, I finished a paranormal short story, The Not So Secret Life of Emily Elizabeth. So, I thought it only fitting to offer it for FREE to celebrate Dad and all the other ghosts who want to share their stories. CLICK HERE to pick up your copy. Enjoy!

If you like the story, please feel free to share this link with your friends and to write a review when you are finished.

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Today is a very special day – the beginning of a new chapter in my life. For over twenty-five years I have been researching reincarnation. It all started with conversations with my father’s ghost. Dad was a Chinese Buddhist, and I wondered what his beliefs in reincarnation would mean for his next life. However, like so many people, he did not know a lot about Buddhist beliefs about reincarnation.

But when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. Then, Brian Weiss, M.D., author of Many Lives Many Masters, entered my life and, like a caterpillar’s transformation into a butterfly, I began to change. Like the butterfly, whose struggle to come out of its cocoon is an important part of its process to be able to take flight in the world, I have gone through a process to prepare me for this day – the birth of THE CENTER – RVA, a center for spiritual growth.

My reincarnation research, my conversations with my father’s ghost and all the teachers who have come into my life, and putting what I have learned into practice has prepared me for this next chapter. After years of training with Sanaya Roman, Brian Weiss, M.D., and Carol Bowman, I am pleased to “move forward in the direction of my dreams.”

THE CENTER – RVA is a center without walls. It is more about a state of mind than a bricks-and-mortar place. I will offer classes, workshops and gatherings while I continue to work on the book, Conversations with a Hungry Ghost: Memoir of a Reluctant Medium, and prepare for a trip to my father’s birthplace in China with my Roots Plus group.

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Check out my website for THE CENTER – RVA and join me for my upcoming workshop, Karma 2 Dharma: From Healing the Past to Embracing Your Life Purpose.

Last, but not least, I want to say “Thank, Mom.” I had cared for her for over a year before she left her physical body in January, and I shared with her some of my beliefs about what happens and where we go when we die. It was an experience I will always treasure. So, I was not surprised when she came to me moments after she crossed over. Like a mother bird who pushes the baby bird out of the nest, she said, “Don’t be afraid. It’s time to fly.”


Never too late to learn

As I’ve said before but I’ll say it again, “I am a perpetual student.” In fact, I love it when I can say that I learn something new every day. So, today I’d like to give a shout out to Lazlo Montgomery, creator of The China History Podcast.


Montgomery’s interest in China’s vast history covers everything from the emperors to current leaders to China’s wealthiest man, and oracle bones to a historical perspective about Chinese cuisine. I wish I’d had a history teacher like him when I was in school, one who makes history  palatable and throws in all kinds of fascinating nuggets.

It’s never too late to learn, and I am thrilled with what I am learning about my father’s homeland before my Roots trip this Fall.

Guided by Heaven’s way . . .

Strife in not new. Politics, wars, border lines, economics, you name it. It is clear that we are repeating the past, but will we learn from it?

“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it.” George Santayana (1863 – 1952)

Maybe we can learn from Liu Bei, a Shu ruler during the Han dynasty in China.



“To restore order to the world, one must regain the hearts of the people, and the hearts of the people are best guided by following Heaven’s way.” (Three Kingdoms, episode 4)

Sounds simple, but even Liu Bei had trouble following this premise and experienced tremendous loss because of his failings.

We all do the best we can at any given moment. Maybe that is the lesson we can learn.

Celebrating all are created equal

This Fourth of July I am reminded of a song that I sang in Glee Club, a song (see link below) that celebrated the diverse origins of this country’s people. It inspired me in my youth and it continues to inspire me even today when others would have us look down on one another. Have we forgotten our roots so quickly?
As I am rooting for the truth about my Chinese heritage with my Roots Plus/Friends of Roots group, I am ever grateful that my family came to the “Gold Mountain.” What I am discovering about the Chinese experience of becoming American, well, it is sometimes scary, sometimes sad and yet it fills me with awe.
“We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” (Declaration of Independence)
This Fourth of July, as I listen to the words of the song from my childhood, I pray that we see the beauty in one another and in this, and all countries; that we realize as Franklin D. Roosevelt said, “All we have to fear is fear itself.” That we practice what Jesus taught us: to love our neighbors as ourselves, even to love our enemy. Call me optimistic, but I hope that we again see this country, this world, as abundant and full of opportunities.
For if my rooting journey has taught me one thing, it is this: We are all one family and it takes a village to create peace on earth.